What ‘Love’ Really Is


If you have love, you don’t need to have anything else, and if you don’t have it, it doesn’t matter much what else you have.
Sir James M. Barrie

In this article, I want to dwell on “love”. You know, it’s the thing that we think we know, but in reality we don’t.
You probably have an idea of what love is though. You would describe it by saying things like; love is such a feeling which makes your heart beat faster. It makes you notice your blood pulsing in your veins. Gives you a burst of energy every time the person you love looks at you. And this can go on and on.
Additionally you might mention about some common signs usually occur when you are in love.

  • First, you cannot help but think of the person more often everyday.
  • You wish to always be in his/her company. You alter all your plans to spend time with that person.
  • You feel overwhelmed because of the feeling called love. You may even lose your appetite.
  • You become more cheerful. You forgive people easily and nothing will upset you.
  • You become kinder person and more polite towards others, in brief the whole world.

It is all these emotions that make the word love so indescribable. But somehow we tend to forget the value of the word love. Most of the times we misuse it. We confuse it with some other notions. Frankly in some instance, I don’t think people use the word “love” properly. These days, everyone consume this word generously. Say, a woman might say to another, “I love your earrings.” Oh! come on, how can someone love earrings or a hat or something else? Yes, we might “like” an object, but we often tend to misuse the word “love” opposed to the word “like.”

What we forget is love is so strong that it requires a feedback. In other words, if “like” gets a response, it might end up in a “love” eventually. Or, it just stays as a “like”. The key is here is the response or a feedback. Putting shortly, “love” requires at least two sides while “like” can only have one. That’s why “love” is way stronger than “like”. Because love comes with responses, it builds an unshakable bond between those two living things. I say “living things” since I believe animals fell love in their world as well. It’s a scientific fact that dogs get sick if their owners show their anger to them. They are sensitive in their relationships to their owners.

Because of misusing the word, we remember what ‘Love’ really means. To refresh our comprehension of it, I’m adding two anonymous stories below. And please do remember:

“It’s not hard to find someone who tells you they love you, it’s hard to find someone who actually means it.”

Love doesn’t always have happily ever afters.

A blind girl, who was filled with animosity and despised the world. She didn’t have many friends, just a boyfriend who loved her deeply, like no one else. She always used to say that she would marry him if she could see him. Suddenly, one day someone donated her pair of eyes.
And that is when she finally saw her boyfriend. She was astonished to see that her boyfriend was blind. He told her, “You can see me now, can we get married?” She replied, “And then what? We’d never be happy. I have my eye sight now, but you’re still blind. It won’t work out, I’m sorry.”
With a tear in the man’s eye and a smile on his face, he meekly said, “I understand. I just want you to always be happy. Take care of yourself, and my eyes.”

Without your love, I would die.

One night a guy and a girl were driving home from the movies. The boy sensed there was something wrong because of the painful silence they shared between them that night. The girl then asked the boy to pull over because she wanted to talk. She told him that her feelings had changed and that it was time to move on.
A silent tear slid down his cheek as he slowly reached into his pocket and passed her a folded note. At that moment, a drunk driver was speeding down the very same street. He swerved right into the driver’s seat, killing the boy. Miraculously, the girl survived. Remembering the note, she pulled it out and read. “Without your love, I would die.”